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How to Talk So Kids Will Listen

by on 12/10/2021 3237

Do parenting tips, techniques work for everybody?

Parenting with peace or positive/respectful parenting is not just about following some tips or techniques but much beyond it.

The fact is our own false programming comes in the way of our journey to grow further and forward.

That is when reprogramming of our subconscious is utmost needed, digging into our own belief systems, doing a root cause analysis, being aware of our experiences, pains, emotions, filling in our gaps, healing our pain, forgiving our people, forgiving our past everything comes into place.

That is when your CORE becomes strong.

Parenting is not just about tips or techniques but most importantly of CORE principles that need to be set right in the parent’s mind first.


Here are 7 top tips to replace yelling, nagging, and begging your children to listen. Watch, learn, and make a difference today!

1. Spend 10 minutes a day

Spend one-on-one time with each of your children, consistently on an activity they choose. Not only will it give you a better bond with your kids, but the attention and power boosts will fuel better behavior.

2. Engage with curiosity

Engage in a meaningful conversation on a topic that your child is interested in. Connections are natural when parents take a genuine interest in their children’s interests. The quality of your time is revealed through your connection. Children open up when they feel relevant and understood.

3. Help your child deal with their feelings

Listen and acknowledge your child’s feelings. Acknowledging isn’t condoning our child’s actions; it’s validating the feelings behind them. “I know it’s hard for you to leave the park. You love it here.”

4. Drop “No”

I learned this the hard way when my daughter’s first words were “NO”! “No” causes unnecessary stress on the developing, child brain and when it’s overused it removes any opportunity for the child to problem-solving and self-regulation.

5. Don’t give the satisfaction of overreaction

The truth is that kids talk back to get a reaction. Get eye-to-eye and very calmly say, “I love you too much to argue with you about this. I’m going to give myself some time to cool down.” Walk away and come back to talk when both of you are in the mindset to talk. In this way, your child will also learn how to handle stress. Combine empathy with an understanding of your child’s development needs while still maintaining boundaries and keeping them safe.

6. Fill up your child’s power bucket

Let your child make some decisions at home. Have family meetings, get them involved in small discussions. Do things together, like cleaning up. Let them feel important, needed, wanted! Fill their bucket by offering open-ended questions when placing demands.

7. Be present, have boundaries

All relationships must have boundaries. Set fair limits, communicate those limits clearly, and be consistent in implementing consequences when appropriate.

This article was written by Nandhini Sivanna from Brainbow Kids. Brainbow Kids supports children with emotional intelligence tools via creative art. They also offer subscription-based craft boxes. Subscribe today!